Appreciate the differences
The village of the past
We live in a global society some say. Really? Let’s go back how it used to be. Living in a tiny village, with no transport, no internet. The front door would be unlocked. People felt safe. Because they knew everyone in the village. They stayed there, grew up, and played, went to school and found some work. Your family lived in the same village, parents, grandparents, uncles, nieces. You knew each other. Because you spend so much time together. Knew who to trust, who to mistrust. Sharing similar values and morals. What was OK and what was not OK was clear as glass. Spoke the same language. The same dialect. Most of us were poor. But life was gentle and easy. And you would help one and another in times of need and strive. A stranger would knock at your door and be greeted with warmth and sharing.
But the village is no more. If you didn’t leave, your family did. The city is everywhere now. The city became the planet. With the anonymous spread everywhere. Around the corner you find different cultures, religions habits, colors, race. In the village of our organization, we meet a corporate culture build with completely different and unique people. It is different from what we know from our village. Nobody taught us how to build trust with people so different from us. How to work together, and play. Some do fine where many struggle. What we need to learn is to spend time to get to know one another. And appreciate each other, not for what we have in common…For our differences!
Is the ability to go beyond common factors of human beings and to investigate, appreciate, learn and respect someone for the things that are strange and unknown to us. It is an utter and complete mind shift in communication where the conversation starts with learning from each other instead of assuming that the other understands what we are saying. It is communicating by leaving judgement out of it. It is about listening, opening your eyes and ears. Only then can trust be found and sustained in the human relationship. We need to teach our kids how to do this. We need to learn ourselves. We have to if we want to stop the segregation in the world. Everyone knew how to do this as a curious child. Now you might want to learn again.